Mature singles come in many shapes, in many forms, and from many circumstances.

Maybe you’re a never-married single, looking to wed for the first time. Maybe you’re divorced or widowed, and are seeking to re-marry. Maybe you have children. Maybe you don’t. Maybe you want to have children. Maybe you don’t. Maybe you’ve been out of the dating scene for awhile, and are looking for dating tips on how to make your re-entry.

It doesn’t matter how much romantic success you did or didn’t have in your younger years. Nothing in early adulthood can prepare you for the challenges you’ll face when you’re dating later in life.

What are these challenges? Well, firstly, the pool of eligible prospects narrows once you’re in your mid-thirties. Secondly, you yourself are more discriminating. Lives are less fluid; your job, social life and hobbies may have become more compartmentalized and routine since your younger days, making it harder to meet new people. Plus, you might be feeling disappointed or disillusioned from past romances and may have begun to retreat into yourself.

However, there’s a world out there rich with opportunity and singles in the same position. Many people do find marriage partners later in life. And they do it by approaching dating as a fresh, fun and satisfying experience. They date enthusiastically.

Dating enthusiastically means:

• Clarity: Know that you’re ready to enter or re-enter the dating world. Know who you are and what you’re looking for. Know where you’re going, and know how to get there!
• Ease: Finding dating simple, invigorating, and satisfying
• Confidence: Be sure of yourself, and know that you’ve got what it takes. Know that you can find and meet your intended. You can start a relationship, deepen it over time, and get to a point with your intended where you can feel secure enough about your relationship to commit to (re)marriage.
• Success: Feel positive about dating, about meeting new people and finding suitable dating candidates. You’ll date realistically, responsibly and you’ll find the RIGHT ONE to work with towards a harmonious future together!

As you begin your dating adventure, there are so many things to know.

Be Focused. Know:

• How to consciously date “head over heart”
• How to dedicate yourself and stay dedicated to your goal of finding a marriage partner
• How to know who you are, what you are looking for, and how to recognize it
• How to be clear about your current short and long-term goals, core values, and direction
• How to hone down your preferences and non-negotiables to only a few essential and realistic character traits
• How to chart your dating map and stay on course
• How to stay true to yourself and honor your standards throughout your dating journey

Be Ready. Know:

• How to enter dating with maturity and enhanced self-awareness
• How to be prepared for independence and personal decision-making
• How to stay open to and serious about dating for marriage
• How to network, self-promote and make yourself and your desires known

Be Optimistic. Know:

• How to take responsibility for your own happiness and optimism
• How to personally be available and accessible to date without tie-downs
• Nine reasons why marriage and remarriage can bring you important valuable opportunities and benefits

Be Ready to Evaluate a Prospect 

• How to discover what motivates and drives your prospect
• How to evaluate your dating prospect’s alignment with your personal goals and values.
• How to identify the “red flags” that may warn you of trouble up ahead

Be Prepared to Date a Divorced Person. Know:

• What homework to do prior to accepting a first date with a divorced individual
• About the special considerations and needs of the divorced population and just how the second time around differs from dating prior to a first marriage
• Why choosing love over money should not keep you from checking into the financial situation of a divorced prospect
• What to keep in mind if you are “marrying a family”  

Be Ready to Date Wisely. Know:

• How to use the internet as a tool to finding promising prospects; and how to stay aware of the web’s perils and pitfalls
• How to pre-screen prospects by asking basic and in-depth questions, so that you only date invigorating candidates.
• How to steer romantic impulses into mature love
• The five accurate predictors of marriage happiness and how to check for and evaluate them How to get out of a go-nowhere relationship
• How to get an exclusive commitment to date one dating partner at a time until closure or engagement.

Be Ready to Commit. Know: 

• How to be ready to take care of and share your time, space and money with another person
• How to learn from your past mistakes

Be Ready for Lasting Happiness. Know: 

• How to get a Dating 4 Marriage Pre-marital Questionnaire  
• How to build a compatible, long-lasting and harmonious marriage step by step and stage by stage
• How to understand and care for your dating partner
• How to build respect and trust
• Why emotional intimacy is considered the glue that holds marriages together

Contact Malka for a one-on-one coaching session to help you reach your own goals as a mature dater.